Average Cost Per Nut: What's Normal (and Why Nobody Can Tell You Yet)

You'll see "average CPN" numbers floating around online. Treat them as jokes. Nobody has a large, honest, representative dataset of what guys spend versus what they get, and self-reported numbers on TikTok skew toward whatever makes the best video.

We don't publish benchmarks either. CPN is private by default, and we don't mine users' entries to make marketing stats. If that ever changes, it'll be opt-in, anonymized and clearly explained first.

Where you live: the same date costs more in a big, expensive city. Geography sets your floor.

Format: sit-down dinners cost more than drinks, which cost more than a walk or a coffee.

Transport: ubers both ways, surge pricing and parking quietly inflate every date.

Who you're seeing: one expensive girl can drag your whole number up. That's why the per-girl view matters more than the total.

Relationship stage: early dating is usually the most expensive per outcome. It tends to settle as things become routine.

The only comparison that means anything is you against you. Track a month honestly, and that's your baseline. Change one thing (venue tier, date timing, transport) and compare the next month.

If you want a social comparison, make it a private one: a leaderboard with your mates, who live in the same city and go to the same bars.

Say you spent $900 in a month across three girls and had six outcomes. Your CPN is $150. If one of the three accounted for $500 of that spend and one outcome, her CPN alone is $500, and she's the first place to look.

Made-up numbers, real math. Run your own and see where you land.